Getting What You Want

The first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you want.

— Ben Stein


Soaring to the Highest Heights

. . . those who can soar to the highest heights can also plunge to the deepest depths, and the natures which suffer most sharply are those which also enjoy most keenly.

– Lucy Maud Montgomery
Ann of the Island

I grew up in a home where showing emotions was not encouraged. As I set out on my own I was proud of my ability to maintain an even keel. But as time wore on I came to realize that holding my emotions in check was just a cloak for numbness. A dear friend offered me this quote and I was suddenly free.

In order to soar to emotional heights I had to allow myself the possibility of plunging to the deepest depths. Goodbye even keel. I learned to embrace the lows and reveled in the highs. Sometimes you have to live with the rain. But when the sun eventually comes out, and it always does, the warmth and the light are more glorious than ever.

Seize the Day

This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Contentment

There are two ways to get enough: one is to continue to accumulate more and more. The other is to desire less.

– G. K Chesterton

When Linda and I returned from our stint in London, we landed in New Jersey. Within a few weeks of our US re-entry, and for reasons that still escape us, we bought a beautiful, 2,400 square foot house with a large basement on the north side of Princeton. Despite the delightful, well-groomed neighborhood, we quickly began to discover the folly of our ways. The sweeping windows that let in so much light in the spring became a greenhouse in the heat of summer. It seemed cavernous to heat and cool. Finding enough furniture to fill all the rooms took the better part of a year.

We vowed that if we ever had the chance to start again we would limit ourselves to 2,000 square feet and learn to live simpler.

Eighteen months later we found ourselves in Chapel Hill, North Carolina when Linda had an irresistable job opportunity with a global company in the Triangle. By some miracle of the real estate gods we managed to sell the house in New Jersey, despite the early inklings of the real estate crash. This time we took our lessons to heart. We found a cute house on the north side of Chapel Hill which measures in at 1,950 square feet. Our rent is $1,500 / month — less than the interest we were paying on our mortgage in Princeton.

The house is a little snug but it is more than enough room. We laugh at how little it costs to heat and cool the place. We wish the garage was a little wider, so both cars would fit, but leaving one car outside reminds us that our goal is to live with one car anyway. If we owned the place we would make a few small structural changes to make a combined guest room / office. For now we just make notes for our future plans if we ever get to build our dream house.

We have confirmed that we can live in less than 2,000 square feet. We have less stuff and we feel lighter for it. As the economy continues to turn sideways we are glad that we could easily put our few belongings in storage and head off for Chicago, or Abu Dhabi, or Bejing. I believe that 2009 will be a year of living with less . . . and I predict that we will be richer for it at the end of the year.


Background on the 2009 Quote-A-Day.